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Before we get to specifics, let’s start with a working definition of otherism. Going beyond the clinical, sanitized, ethereal versions, let’s agree that otherism entails seeing a person, group, or community as being different from ourselves and undeserving of the status, privilege, relevance, or recognition that our group has.

If you survived the Spinners and Return Policy Experts we chronicled in Part 1, welcome back to our descent into dating purgatory. As we continue this trip down memory lane, remember that while none of us are perfect, this upcoming roster of men is truly not for the faint of heart. From those who expect you to be perfection personified to the self-proclaimed aficionados poised to test your sanity, let's dive into the remaining dating scenarios we should’ve gracefully, yet swi

Believe it or not, 2016 was a decade ago. Ten years ago, I was in my third year of what is now a thirteen-year relationship. Many of my friends are currently uncoupled, either by choice or because of what they describe as a shrinking pool of men who aren’t irreparably jaded—or who remain unsure of what realistic dating expectations are in the 2020s. Prior to meeting my spouse in 2013, I was undeniably conservative about dating. My expectations were very high, with the rationa

My first blog entry will explore the topic of inclusion and acknowledge the challenges of authentically navigating a world where inclusion is too often viewed as a luxury to be aspired to as time permits, or as something that is no longer necessary in the 21st century. Surprisingly—or maybe not surprisingly to those who have known me for decades—neither of those viewpoints reflects my experiences or views.